When people grow old. they either have the option of being cared for by household or being cared for by the places. In doing that pick. at that place seems to be a cultural form or tradition that is prevailing. In most Western states. where the values of young person. autonomy and individuality are held in high respect. the latter is chosen most of the clip. In Asiatic states nevertheless. like that of China where the construct of ‘filial piety’ means demoing obeisance. respect and regard to your seniors are honoured. taking in the aged is a common pattern. The important figure of the aged in the Philippines population is non ignorable. In the Philippines. 6. 8 % of the 92. 1 million family in 2010. make up the senior citizen sector. Among these. females ( 55. 8 % ) outnumber the males ( 44. 2 % ) . The ageing index of the state was computed to be at 20. 3 % in 2010.
This means. that for every five kids under 15 old ages old. there is one individual aged 60 old ages and over. But to add to add to this. these ageds one time contributed to the government’s establishments and their parts should non be overlooked even though they seem to be good past their primes. They say. wisdom comes with age. Possibly so. this paper. that serves to analyze the perceptual experiences and responses of the aged. will lend. non merely to what today’s young person and the following coevals could give back to the aged but how the community and the state. could age with the aged. both in old ages and in wisdom.
The discussants and interviewees have varied backgrounds from Quezon City. to San Juan City and Makati City – about all have kids. most are still married and some of them still live with their kids and grandchildren.
Life Agreements: The Female Prowess Most of the respondents preferred to populate with their girls who are non married. If the latter is non fulfilled. they still prefer to populate with their girls over their boies. The respondents did non like being taken cared of by those that are married already because of: a ) the inlaws B ) the kids and B ) the hubby.
On an FGD. a male discussant said. “Ngayon nga Air National Guard hirap Nung may asawa kasi kapag kapwa babae hyan. mahirap magkasundo. ” On an FGD. a female discussant said. “Nawala na Air National Guard atensyon SA magulang at sa anak na lahat. ” On an interview. a female interviewee said. “Mag-iiba talaga may asawa. Susundin niya ung asawa niya. ”
Despite the grounds they gave nevertheless. the implicit in tradition brought approximately by the masculine dominated post-colonial Asiatic Catholic values puts an outlook and/or force per unit area on the female kids as most of the respondents. when asked. prefer to populate with their girls traveling with the reply.
“kasi babae eh” . The fact that no farther accounts were offered by some suggests that it is understood what being a adult female entails. Another discussant said “eh mga anak ko kasi mga babae kaya spoiled blare ako SA mga pasalubong at alaga nila” . connoting that misss are generous and caring. Not merely is it given in this instance. but expected every bit good. because the respondents chose their female over their male kids.
Birth order Like the sex difference in the perceptual experiences of the aged when it comes to the populating agreements they prefer. the birth order has a relevant count in the Filipino family. The eldest is looked up to to carry through the cumulative duties of the kids. although it does non take precedency in taking the female as the health professional of the parents. The eldest might be a adult male and it is expected of him to get married whenever it’s the right clip. Although the eldest is normally the carrier of the duties with respects to household sufferings. he is expected to look at the household in a universe ( from his ain household born out of matrimony. to the household of his siblings. and to the household he was born out of ) . therefore doing manner for the adult female in the household to concentrate on the microcosm image of taking attention of the aged. Birth order is of relevancy because they have the power to act upon one of the treatments of the constantly persist in the household when an aged is involved. Money
A few respondents said that heritage is a difficult subject to discourse because the kids drag in the birth order when the treatment is opened. “Mahirap pag-usapan agn mana. …Ako ang firstborn. dapat SA kindred and ganito. ganyan. ” “Dapat pag-usapan sodium. Mahalaga ang pinag-uusapan Air National Guard mana. parity Hindi na magkagulo. ” Although a few want to hedge the treatment that may interrupt up the household. others pointed out that the earlier it gets talked about the lesser the problem it would do. Thus. the perceptual experience between the birth order and the money involved in the heritage is of inquiry. However. merely one respondent answered directly as an pointer when asked the inquiry. “Siguro kung meron adult male doon yun mapupunta SA makakatulong dad SA akin. ” Taga-payo/Nanghihimasok
Whereas they passively recognize that they should take an active function in the heritage and in their life penchants. when asked about their other functions inside within the four walls. the ageds answered that they take a inactive stance wittingly. They normally do minimum family jobs for the household. Taking attention of the apos besides came with the list particularly when both the parents are working. The function of taking attention of the grandchildren seems to be a pattern that is accepted by the community. The aid nevertheless extends still when they offer advice to the household although most of the respondents say that their takes on the affair simply serve as ushers. “Mga of import determinations. ayokong makialam. ” Important determinations to be made are non sometimes consulted and/or offered but most of the respondents have indicated that their kids should cognize what they are making and that they are merely at that place to steer but non to perpetrate what grandparents are normally accused of: nanghihimasok or transgressing on household affairs.
Pamilyang Pilipino Still on the subject of how and where one lives. the subject of Hones for the Aged were brought to the floor. One verbatim history that could outdo collate the replies of others are worded. “Ang maganda lang dyan eh makakasama Ka ng mga taong nakaka-initindi SA inyo dahil pare-pareho kayong oldies. pero ayoko atang matrap SA loob ng institusyon maski gaano kaganda. ”
All the respondents who were asked about their perceptual experiences of the Home for the Aged had negatives positions and did non wish to be in a Home. A common response was the respondents’ comparing of the Homes here with the Homes in the Occident from: the monetary value of traveling into a place. the installations. the attention received. the authorities support. Some were really tolerable to the thought of a Home provided that the Home is in the US. However. the construct of Pamilyang Pilipino is still really much there as they feel that they should lodge together with their households. Children taking attention of their parents seemed to be a given every bit good as one respondent answered. “SOP dapat yun” . Another pointed out that kids must be taught by their schools of the duty of kids to take attention of their seniors. connoting that directing them to a Home does non represent what attention is.
BEYOND the FOUR WALLS Libang Outside the confines of a house. the subject of work has been discussed with the respondents. Almost all of the respondents said that their work now is largely for them to make something. Work now is treated as a “libangan na lamang” because they have pension. the kids are no longer traveling to school and most of them are already working excessively. Work keeps them busy. “Eh kasi pag tumatambay lang ako parity akong nagkakasakit. ” . this idea on being idle has been voiced out by a batch of the respondents. Some respondents. particularly those who are non entitled to their pension and don’t have kids. make mean to still work while they still can because they do experience that they need to salvage. The idea of work being merely a necessity and non a avocation prevails. All of them nevertheless. still say that they love their occupation and they try to still be good at it.
“Ang naapektuhan lang SA kindred ay Air National Guard bilis SA pagtatrabaho. lalo na kapag may rayuma. Kung dati nagagawa KO Air National Guard undertaking nanogram isang oras nagagawa KO ngayon nanogram tatlong oras. yung dedication SA trabaho. walang pinagbago. ”
Organizations Besides from work. they have societal groups that they participate in. Organizations seem to be hot even with the aged. “Dati kasi wala namang ganito. Dati ung lola KO SA simbahan lang un. Ung ngayon naman. nasa brgy Kami. may ganito Kami. nasa qc hall Kami. Kaya dumadami ung senior na nagpparticipate. ” Associations seem to do the elderly’s clip more fruitful. Being church group leaders and active participants make them look frontward to something. Organizations offer belongingness when it can’t be found at place and/or in the workplace.
The PRACTICES of RESPECT “Para nang ang trato ng mga kabataan ay parang aura kasing edad nila Air National Guard matatanda. ” The distance between the ageds and the today’s coevals seem to be closer. And whereas about all see this to hold a negative consequence. some really disagree. In Action
If the presence of many organisations seems to be non-traditional with regard to the ageds. the patterns of regard are expected and are held in high respect as good. The respondents’ responses for regard come in two signifiers: in words and actions. As actions speak louder than words. most of the aged said that the patterns that they did for their grandparents. ceased to be now. Pagmamano. a distinguishable Filipino trait when esteeming the aged is non practiced as much anymore. So is offering a place during a coach drive and assisting them to traverse the street. With regard. it’s non what you do that counts but what you don’t every bit good. The presences of frailties or prosecuting in bisyos are tantamount to disrespecting your seniors.
In Words The long standing Po and opo still seem to be in consequence as no respondent brought it up. But once more. sometimes. it’s non what you say. but what you don’t that could delight the seniors. Whereas. in some civilizations. explicating yourself and whatever misconduct or defect is the recognized pattern to demo that you respect person who is speaking to you. in the Philippines. speaking back is one of the most disrespectful things you could perpetrate. A discussant defined regard as. “Un bang pag nagagalit ako. hndi sila sumasagot sa akin. ” However. non all of the respondents agreed to this. A respondent pointed out that today’s coevals are non merely “mas western” but are more vocal. “Ngayon kasi nagkakaroon kasi ng duologue ang mga may edad at saka mga Bata. Sinasabi nila kung Fatah Revolutionary Council Air National Guard Mali. Hindi naman lahat ng magulang tama. ” The duologue between the aged and the young person is seen as a manner of seting to each other’s needs. Almost all of the respondent nevertheless prefer what was practiced so. some stating. “Dati smin. isang tingin. tiklop ka sodiums. ”
Kusang Loob/Utang na Loob/Asa Respect nevertheless. encompasses non merely the touchable patterns. It moves in the bigger image or duologue between the aged and the kids. When asked about the support that their kids can give to them. about all answered that they do non desire to maintain their hopes up. The construct of asa seems to be greatly tied to the construct of inquiring aid. Filipinos. in general “do non desire to take no for an answer” . This Ready for Disappointment outlook mentioned in Lacson. 2001. persists even in the ageds as they would instead non inquire aid because. as one respondent said. “Masakit umasa. ” Although about all of the respondents answered that they are non anticipating aid. the construct of kusang loob is present. “I did my best to supply at nagkukusang-loob naman silang tumulong SA kindred ngayon. ” “Hindi ako lumalapit. Ang nangyayari. sila mismo Air National Guard gumagawa ng paraan. ” The aged do non anticipate aid. They expect their kids to understand that aid should non be asked but it is expected to be offered.
Utang na Loob “Dapat tumanaw Ka nanogram utang na loob. Hindi ka tao kung Hindi dahil SA kanila. ” Most of the respondents said that it is merely right to give back to people who have spent on you. Because of their Ready for Disappointment. about all did non explicitly say that it is their kids who need to give back to them. They chiefly pointed out the importance of giving back.
The three constructs are tied together. The aged do non desire to inquire for aid and acquire their hopes up in the fright of being hurt or disappointed. But because they feel that they’ve raised their kids in a befitting mode. they should look back and “tumanaw ng utang na loob” by offering aid that they won’t ask but they somehow expect to a certain point.
The RISE of TECHNOLOGY The aged. although a stickler for the ways of demoing regard. seek to accommodate themselves to the current coevals and its engineering and one respondent even attributed a practive of regard through the agencies of engineering. When asked to specify regard. she said. “Kinakamusta ako SA text. ” “Kahit papano relish KO updated ako sa mga pinag-uusapan ng mga Bata. sa pinapanuod at ginagawa nila. Mabagal adult male ako makaintindi niyang ipad-ipad ng mga batang yan pero ngayon atleast natuto na akong mag electronic mail at magchat sa facebook. ” This reply should be looked at a bigger image nevertheless because unlike the other respondents. this respondent came from one of a metropolis with a thriving concern. And with that. the respondent is more encircled by people who sharply take portion in the fast and altering universe.
The enthusiasm of the respondent was echoed by most of the respondents. Some patterns of regard which could non be performed by the kids were unwittingly faulting engineering or the kids who were born into a coevals that is really technology-dependent. “Dati kasi pag dating ni amang may dala silang slippers ( a Filipino tradition where the kids brings the male parent the slippers on the premiss that he needs to loosen up after a long day’s work ) . eh ngayon tutok na sa Television. ” “Malakas kasi ung impluensya nanogram napapnuod. Imbis na doing sa lola. Kasi may gngawa. kasi nagkkomputer. ” “Nagsasalita Ka nanogram salita minute. un pala may nakasaksak na earpieces dito. ” One of the respondents besides noticed the reaction of the kids towards engineering when the aged attempts to affect themselves with the onhand engineering. “Tapos pansin KO lang siguro na maikli Air National Guard pasensiya ng mga Bata. . lalo na pagtechnology Air National Guard tinatanong minute. ”